There is not a day that goes by where I don’t find myself thinking “I wish I would have known that when I was younger.” Life is complicated and full of plot twists. So, I decided to write a letter to my younger self to get it off my chest, as well as hopefully help my younger readers that might come across this post.
Where do I even begin?…
Dear younger and naive Sam,
Life has so much to offer you. There will probably be more downs then there are ups, but that’s the name of the game. You cannot control everything, despite how much you believe that you can. The most you can do is try to prepare for anything that comes your way, so here are a few things I want you to keep in mind.
Love yourself first.
You are going to wake up some mornings wishing you did not exist. This is no way to think about yourself. It is very important that you learn how to love yourself in order to love others. No relationship you have will prosper if you cannot do this first.
Do not let what others think of you determine your self-worth. No one knows you like you do, and you need to stand tall and rise above. You are beautiful, and do not let anyone else tell you otherwise.
Work hard, then play hard.
I cannot stress enough how important this is. There will be instances where your friends or boyfriend are going to try to pull you away from your studies to go do irresponsible things. Never falter, and always stand your ground. It might seem important to you to make these people see you as cool or fun to be around. Who cares? These people probably won’t be there three years down the road, and your grades will have suffered for no damn reason. School comes before all else. Aspire to greatness, and graduate from college. You will thank yourself for this later.
Learn how to budget and save money!
Being an adult is difficult, but I cannot tell you how much more difficult it will be if you don’t get your finances straight. Set some goals for yourself, and create a plan sooner rather than later.
Learn the importance of a credit score. Most people have no clue what this is after high school, but it will be important for everything in your adult life.
Save, save, and save some more. It could be a few dollars a week, I don’t care. Just start the habit now while you still can.
There are going to be moments of weakness, and that’s okay. Always ask yourself if you need something or if you just want something. There is plenty of time in your adult life to accumulate all that crap your friends have.
Bond with your dad.
You guys are going to have arguments that result in you not speaking for months at a time, and it just isn’t worth it. He knows what the hell he is talking about. Don’t give him the chance to say I told you so, just listen to him. He is your father and only wants what is best for you.
Learn how to cook like him. Ramen noodles only gets you so far before you want to kill yourself.
Lastly, stop dwelling on the past.
Mistakes are bound to happen, no one is perfect. Use them as a learning experience. You cannot change the past, dear. If there are people in your life that can’t get over your failures, then you need to leave them in the past as well. Life is too short to hate yourself over something you can’t control anymore. Move on, accept that you f*cked up, and do better next time!
I know these may not be all the answers you are looking for, but you must do the rest on your own.
There is no one else in this world like quite like you. Some days you will feel like giving up all hope, but keep going. One day you will look back and realize that life gets better. Make the most of it while you still can.
Love, your older self.